My Son Abandoned Me for Years, But Now He’s Back to Ask for Money, “Can’t You Just Get Over It? I Need This Money, Mom.”

 Barely six months after my mom passed away from dementia, my dad married his new girlfriend Carol. 

I tried to tell myself that it wasn’t my business. My dad was lonely, and if Carol made him happy, who was I to judge? 

But deep down, it stung.

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Me: "So… you really married her?"

Dad: (raising an eyebrow) "You don’t have to sound so surprised."

Me: "Surprised? No. Disappointed? Maybe."

Dad:  "I didn’t think it would bother you this much."

Me: "You married Carol three months after Mom died."

Dad: (defensive) "It’s not like I planned it."

Me: "Really? Then what was it? A spur-of-the-moment thing? Or were you already lining her up before Mom was even gone?"

Dad: "That’s not fair."

Me: "No, what’s not fair is how quickly you moved on. You didn’t even give yourself time to grieve. Or maybe you did—and Carol was just part of the plan."

Dad: "It wasn’t like that. I was lonely, Sarah."

Me: "We were all lonely, Dad! You weren’t the only one who lost her."

Dad: "I know."

Me: "Do you? Because from where I’m standing, it looks like you just replaced her and kept going."

Dad: "You think it was easy for me?"

Me: "Yeah, it sure looked easy."

Dad: "You don’t understand what it’s like to lose someone you’ve built your whole life around."

Me: "Don’t I?"

(Dad’s mouth tightens. He looks away.)

Dad: "Carol makes me happy."

Me: "Yeah, when things are easy. When you need someone to sit with you at dinner or smile at your jokes. But what about when things aren’t easy?"

Dad: (defensive) "She’s there for me."

Me: "Is she, though?"

Dad: "What’s that supposed to mean?"

Me: "I’m just saying… you know who’s been there when you were too weak to get out of bed?

Dad: "Sarah…"

Me: "It was me. Every single time, it was me." (I lean back, arms crossed.) "And you know what’s funny? 

“I never once complained. Never asked for anything." "But maybe I should have."

Dad: "What are you trying to say?"

Me: (hesitating) "I just… I don’t know. You’ve got everything figured out with Carol. Maybe it’s time to figure out the other stuff too."

Dad: "What other stuff?"

Me: "Like… making sure things are set up properly. That things are fair." (I force a smile.) "I mean, you wouldn’t want Carol to have to figure all that out on her own, right?"

Dad: "What exactly are you asking me, Sarah?"

Me: "I’m not asking for anything. Just… wondering where I stand." "Or if I stand anywhere at all."

Dad: "Sarah, you know how much you mean to me."

Me: "Do I?" (I exhale.) "Because from where I’m sitting, it looks like Carol means more."

Dad: "It’s not about that."

Me: "Then what is it about?" "Because if it’s not about money, and it’s not about who’s been there for you, then what exactly is it?"

Dad: "I didn’t think you’d care about this."

Me: "I don’t care about the money, Dad. I care about what it represents." "After everything I’ve done—everything I’ve given up for you—you can’t even make sure I’m taken care of?"

Dad: "I didn’t think you needed it."

Me: "Maybe not. But it would have been nice to feel like you saw me. Like you appreciated me. 

“Carol will be fine either way. She wasn’t the one holding your hand when things got bad. That was me."

Dad: (strained) "It’s not that simple."

Me: "It really is."

(Months pass. The appointments become more frequent. Dad’s health declines quickly. And then one day, I’m standing in a hospital room, holding his hand as he struggles for breath.)

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Dad: "Sarah…"

Me: "I’m here, Dad."

Dad: "You… you need to know something."

Me: "What is it?"

Dad: "The money… it's going to Carol."

(My hand freezes in his.)

Me: "What?"

Dad: (barely audible) "I left everything to her."

Me: "All of it?"

Dad: "Yes."

Me: "Wow. That’s… incredible."

Dad: "I didn’t think you’d be this upset."

Me: "Of course you didn’t. I mean, why would you?”

Dad:  "It’s not like that—"

Me: "Then what’s it like? Huh? You tell me, Dad." 

Dad: "Carol… she made me happy."

Me: "Yeah?

Dad: "I didn’t want you to feel tied down."

Me: "Tied down?" "Do you have any idea how insulting that is?"

Dad: (weakly) "Sarah—"

Me: "You think this is what tied me down? You think staying up all night watching you struggle to breathe was a chore? You think sitting through every doctor’s appointment, holding your hand while you cried, was me being trapped?" 

"Dad, I chose to be there. Every time. No one forced me."

Dad: "I know."

Me: "No, you don’t. If you did, you wouldn't have said that. You wouldn’t have acted like this was some obligation I got stuck with."

"Do you know how hard it was watching you get weaker every day? Knowing there was nothing I could do to fix it? And still choosing to stay because I loved you?"

Dad: "I didn’t want to be a burden."

Me: "A burden?" "You weren’t a burden, Dad. You were my father." 

"Do you know how badly I wanted you to see that? To see me?"

Dad: "I did see you."

Me: "No, you didn’t. You saw Carol. You gave everything to Carol. 

You gave her the good days, and now you’ve given her everything else too." "And after everything—after all the nights I stayed by your side, all the sacrifices I made—what did I get?"

Dad: "Sarah…"

Me: "You didn’t even leave me a token. Not a letter. Not even one thing to say, ‘Thank you for not walking away.’""Carol gets everything. Everything. And I get… what?"

Dad: "I thought you’d understand."

Me: "Understand?" (I blink back tears.) "I’m trying, Dad. But it’s hard to understand when it feels like you valued her comfort more than the person who stayed when things got hard."

(He’s quiet. His breathing is shallow.)

Dad: "I was scared."

Me: "Of what?"

Dad: "Of leaving you tied to me. Of you not having a life because of me."

Me: "You didn’t tie me to you, Dad. I chose to be there." (I wipe my face.) "And you know what? I’d do it all again. Even knowing how this ends."

Dad: "I’m sorry."

Me: "Yeah… me too."

(My chest heaves. My hands are trembling. I want to scream at him, tell him how unfair this is, how much it hurts—but looking at him, so pale and fragile in that bed, I can’t.)

(Because deep down, I know he loved me in his own flawed way.)

Dad: "I love you, Sarah."

Me: (whispering) "I love you too, Dad."

(I sit there for a long time, holding his hand. My throat tightens, and the tears come quietly.)

(And then, before I even realize I’m speaking, the words slip out.)

Me: "I just… I just wanted to feel acknowledged, Dad."

 
Dad: "I see you, Sarah…"

Me: "No, you don’t." "You don’t get it. You never did." 

"Do you know what it felt like to sit there with you in every waiting room, to drive for hours so you wouldn’t have to go to those appointments alone?"

Dad: "I know you’ve done a lot—"

Me: "A lot?" "Dad, I gave up so much for you. My friends stopped inviting me out because they knew I’d be with you. I turned down job opportunities because I didn’t want to move too far in case you needed me." 

"Do you know how many times I’ve sat in my car after dropping you off, just sobbing because I was so exhausted? Because it was all too much?"

Dad: "I didn’t ask you to do that…"

Me: "Yeah, you didn’t ask. But who else was going to show up, Dad? Carol? She only came around when things were easy. She didn’t sit in those hospital rooms.”

“She wasn’t there when you couldn’t walk to the bathroom. She didn’t have to make the decision to increase your pain meds, knowing it would… knowing it would…" 

Dad: "I didn’t want you to carry that."

Me: "But I did. And I would do it all again. Even knowing how it ends." 

"But after everything—I thought you’d leave me something. To show me that you understood what I gave up for you." 

"But no… it’s all going to Carol. The one who showed up for the good days and vanished when things got hard."

Dad: "I didn’t think it mattered."

Me: "Of course it mattered. It mattered because it would have shown me that you noticed.”

Dad: "I didn’t mean to hurt you…"

Me: "But you did." 

"You hurt me when you let Carol take the credit for caring for you. You hurt me when you smiled at her like she was some gift from heaven while I sat there, drained and invisible. And you hurt me now, because you’re leaving me with nothing. Not even a thank you."

Dad: "I didn’t know how to say it."

Me: "A thank you wouldn’t have been that hard." (My throat tightens.) "Even a letter. Just something to say that you saw me. That you appreciated me." 

Dad: "I saw you, Sarah."

Me: "Then why didn’t you say it?"

Dad: "Because I didn’t want you to feel like you owed me anything. I didn’t want you to think I expected you to be there."

Me: "It wasn’t about obligation, Dad. I wanted to be there. Because I love you. But love isn’t enough when you feel invisible."

Dad: "I’m sorry…"

Me: (tearful) "Yeah. Me too."

(I stare at him. His breathing is shallow, his eyes glassy. My chest tightens.)

Me: "I didn’t need the money, Dad. I just needed to know that you saw me. That you were proud of me. That you valued me for more than just showing up."

Dad: (whispering) "I was proud of you. Always."

Me: "Then why couldn’t you just say that?"

(He closes his eyes, his breath fading.)

Me: (whispering) "I loved you, Dad. Even when it hurt."

(I sit there for a long time, holding his hand as the monitor goes silent. My chest tightens, but this time, there’s no anger left—just the quiet weight of knowing I did all I could.)

Me: "Goodbye, Dad."

(I stand up, letting his hand go. And as I walk away, I realize that maybe closure doesn’t come from fixing what’s broken—but from accepting that some things never will be.)

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